First of all, I’d like to thank you all for the kind comments that you left on my last post. I felt kind of self-conscious posting about such personal, not very nice, stuff, but this community never disappoints; your words were so encouraging and it was helpful to hear about how you’ve all dealt with [...]
Posts Tagged ‘reflection’
How did we get here?
Posted in Married Life, tagged reflection, the mister on November 27, 2009 | 6 Comments »
Non, je ne regrette rien.
Posted in Wedding, tagged anxiety, planning, reflection on November 12, 2009 | 15 Comments »
Dudes, I pretty much never think about my wedding anymore. It’s crazy how quickly this thing that was once so consuming is now so peripheral. Pretty much the only time the wedding does come up, is when I am talking with the slew of friends who have gotten engaged since we wed, and are planning [...]
An addendum to yesterday’s post: how marriage makes me a better person.
Posted in Married Life, tagged anxiety, reflection, the mister on October 20, 2009 | 5 Comments »
Yesterday I talked about how the mister and I chose each other, for all of our good and bad qualities, and how wonderful it feels to know that your life/partnership/marriage is the result of such conscious decisions about what you are taking on. Y’all really expanded on what I had been trying to say in [...]
Marriage and the idea of choice.
Posted in Married Life, tagged reflection, the mister on October 19, 2009 | 19 Comments »
It is an amazing thing to choose someone.
A while back, I wrote about the origins of the mister’s and my relationship. Suffice it to say that we never explicitly dated, but rather we kind of fell into a relationship with each other. I still remember clearly the conversation in which we admitted to each other [...]
The change that comes with marriage — Part II
Posted in Married Life, tagged community, home, reflection on October 14, 2009 | 14 Comments »
A month ago, I regaled (ha) you with the tale of receiving and unpacking most of our registry stuff in one go, and then proceeding to admire our new swag so lovingly it was embarrassing. Well, it turns out the nesting instinct has yet to wear off. I am a hypocrite for posting about this, [...]
Cost-Benefit Analysis
Posted in Wedding, tagged reflection on October 12, 2009 | 12 Comments »
I’ve told you a lot about both the process of planning my wedding, and the day itself. If the details are feeling fuzzy, here’s the gist of it:
Our year-long engagement–moments of joy as a couple and among friends, but in many ways overshadowed by ugly conflict with family which made for a very, very hard [...]
On “On Transcendence”
Posted in Wedding, tagged reflection on October 8, 2009 | 12 Comments »
Meg just posted a short manifesto on transcendence at our weddings, and the ways in which powerful moments sneak up on us. I was touched that she quoted an email I wrote to her at somewhere around 10:00am the morning after my wedding, when it was all still swirling around in my head, and I [...]
Two Months
Posted in Married Life, Wedding, tagged reflection on October 2, 2009 | 5 Comments »
Breakfast on one morning of our honeymoon, at this wonderful hotel.
Today is our two month anniversary. I only just realised that as I was paying a bill and noticed the date. Whoops. A friend of mine said that when she got married, they managed to celebrate each month until about #6, when they lost track. [...]
Against Appraisal
Posted in Married Life, tagged reflection, the mister on September 30, 2009 | 9 Comments »
So I had this moment last winter, where I fell apart. My dissertation had been on hold due to full-time work and I felt like it would never get done/I didn’t know where I was going/I was feeling a lot of pressure from outside sources and I couldn’t answer their questions/all the crazy anxieties that [...]
